by Most Lee Harmless » Sun Aug 07, 2016 10:16 pm
There is but one sexuality in humans, derived from the basic instinct to reproduce and the enormous pleasure derived from that physical act : however, the act itself does not require conception to provide that pleasure, so how we gain that pleasure can express itself in many ways, some of which can seem a million miles from the basic instinct that drives them but all end up at the same place : the physical enjoyment of sexual stimulation and completion : folk seem to like mixing up the definitions of it so as to give some importance to one particular form, or too denigrate another : societal pressures can gives particular forms higher status and acceptability : not many would find the notion of a gay man working in beauty parlor to be earth-shattering news : place that same gay man in the locker room of their favorite football team, wearing the quarterbacks jersey and, well, stand back cos its gonna get noisy.
My own view is sexual desire is the driving factor in how folk identify their 'sexuality' : what turns them on, what gets them hot, moist and breathing funny : and desire is a very broad set of definitions indeed, some of which can seem alike, some of which can seem self-contradictary : is the shoe fetishist who really gets off on sniffing men's shoes 'gay' ? Even if they would not find physical contact with a male to be enjoyable or sought after? If its ladies high heels, are they 'straight' and so as a proven heterosexual socially acceptable in the Bible Belt? Different strokes indeed. Main thing is folk enjoy themselves without the need to force others to share their desires and practcies or forbid consensual sharing of them by others.
As for the toilet gender debate : somehow humanity has managed to survive this far with the unremarkable ( in the sense that nobody has suggested its worth talking about) fact of having gender-neutral toilets in their homes : I doubt having them in public will shatter that record of progress.
As an aside : public toilets designated for the disabled have been long been gender-neutral : So, not a problem for the crippled? Or just society ignoring the rights of the disabled once again?
-1 : Move to archive.