First off, dez reminds me of one of the cast of grumpy old men. Ive noticed he is just that way, but i think some of what people have issues with is that he has dry a$$ humor, i picture him laughing at some of the stuff he says, while those receiving it get pist, and the sooner you figure that out the better

But on this topic, i think it takes a special kind of person to be a active player moderator. They should have to follow all rules the players do as any player would, participate in all the banter, but be able to separate the personal from professional. Not everyone can do that, and its an acquired skill. In the Air Force, we always thought the best officers were prior enlisted.
On the other hand, we cant always jump to moderator abuse when ever we feel slighted, sometimes we are just wrong, just as they are.
Remember...
You can sheer a sheep many times, but only skin it once!